Men, Jesus, and Intimacy
“Let the King bring me into His chambers”
(Song of Songs 1:4)
There are two ways to interpret the Song of Songs. Some people treat it as King Solomon’s fantasy world,
his putting pen to papyrus the things on his mind. In his case that would be his lustful thoughts.
Understandable for a man who kept 700 hundred wives and 300 concubines. We know what was on his
mind. The favored approach, however, is to spiritualize the whole book and with that, amazing pearls of
wisdom have been extrapolated and preached throughout the ages. But whichever path you choose, the
fact remains that the book has been considered worthy of inclusion in the Bible.
The spiritual approach to the book essentially places Jesus as one’s lover; everyone’s lover, leaving men
in particular with a lot of personal challenges with the book’s substance. It confuses their spirituality and
although there are scores of reasons, one in particular cuts them to their core beings, the thought of both
spiritual and physical intimacy with Jesus. The same Jesus, their God, who created sexuality, yet they are
prone to deny Him entry into that carefully guarded and very personal area.
It’s difficult enough for a gay Christian man to embrace 5:16, “His mouth is sweetness,” but for a heterosexual
man it’s near impossible. Yet, if we’re going to spiritualize the book, then we have to joyfully accept its
precepts. Let’s face it, the vast majority of Christian men really don’t believe in their hearts that they are
able to have an ongoing love relationship with their Savior, one which is so intimate that they could boldly
proclaim that His mouth is sweetness. They’d run for the hills if it came to that, rather than run to Him, the
One who created them.
Therefore, though they’d deny it, they are unable to discern intimate promptings of the Holy Spirit, much less
be able to live and move within the realm of divine revelation. How can one worship God and hear from God
unimpeded when one cannot allow oneself intimacy with Him? There is no happy state for a Christian outside
of God’s will. Unsaved people seek fulfillment in worldly things and they often find it. But that’s all they get.
There’ll be no eternal bliss in their futures. But for those who belong to Jesus, those bought by His blood,
there will never be any satisfaction outside of Him.
For a Christian man, it is imperative that he unabashedly welcomes and desires Jesus, open his heart
and arms to Him who is “altogether lovely” (5:16). It should be our passion to adore Him as He does us.
He is our beloved, the fair one whose love has captured our hearts. The imagery of Jesus “bounding over
the hills” to us (2:8) so that we can be intimate with Him results in jubilation: “winter is passed.....
the season of singing has come.” (2:11)