“There are friends who destroy each other, but a real friend sticks closer than a brother.”
Here’s a quick run-down of the several Greek words for love. Charos refers to charity in the form
or having respect for others. Agape refers to active affection between two people with an added
spiritual quality in regard to a God centered relationship. A social kind of love such as the love
of a child for a parent is encompassed by the Greek word Philias. The word Eros refers to sex
or erotic attraction, and Storgi is brotherly love - a simple basic affection natural to human interaction.
I call your attention to Philias. It’s the word the Greeks used for the true loyalty which
circumstances cannot penetrate or separate. The Apostle Paul said that Philias is patient and kind,
never jealous or boastful, not arrogant or rude, won’t insist on always having its own way, won’t be
irritable or resentful, and has a distaste for sin and wrongdoing. Here’s the tough part: Philias love
bears all things, believes all things, and hopes all things. (I Corinthians 13:4-7) Definitely something
to think about.
David and Jonathan had something special. Their love had three dimensions - Agape, Eros,
and Philias. And the Bible tells us that David was “the man after God’s own heart.” Guess he
was doing something right.